Practice as a noun
Mar 08, 2021
You may have noticed that we keep talking about practice.
When people ask for "tips, tricks and strategies" to do anything or overcome challenges, my answer is the same: I don’t have any tips, tricks or strategies. I do have practices that work for me. Practices that when I do them, things work better and when I fall off, am inconsistent or stop doing the practices, things go back to the way they were.
Practices. It is one of the key words in my model of the world.
When I recently stumbled upon George Leonard’s description of the word practice, therefore, I was very interested.
He describes practice as a noun (rather than a verb).
"A practice (as a noun) can be anything you practice on a regular basis as an integral part of your life—not in order to gain something else, but for its own sake... For a master, the rewards gained along the way are fine, but they are not the main reason for the journey. Ultimately, the master and...
Practice as a noun
Mar 08, 2021
You may have noticed that we keep talking about practice.
When people ask for "tips, tricks and strategies" to do anything or overcome challenges, my answer is the same: I don’t have any tips, tricks or strategies. I do have practices that work for me. Practices that when I do them, things work better and when I fall off, am inconsistent or stop doing the practices, things go back to the way they were.
Practices. It is one of the key words in my model of the world.
When I recently stumbled upon George Leonard’s description of the word practice, therefore, I was very interested.
He describes practice as a noun (rather than a verb).
"A practice (as a noun) can be anything you practice on a regular basis as an integral part of your life—not in order to gain something else, but for its own sake... For a master, the rewards gained along the way are fine, but they are not the main reason for the journey. Ultimately, the master and the...
Enjoying the process
Mar 05, 2021
Since the best way to get to our destination appears to be to focus on the path rather than obsessive focus on the destination, the journey can be much more pleasant if we actually enjoy the process, don’t you think?
"the real juice of life, whether it be sweet or bitter", writes George Leonard, "is to be found not nearly so much in the products of our efforts as in the process of living itself, in how it feels to be alive."
So, how about savouring the process, enjoying the journey, taking in the view and smelling the roses along the way?
How do we do it?
Stop, pause, look around. What small beauty, pleasure or delight are you missing by obsessively wanting to get to your destination? Simply pause and take a moment to savour it.
Staying the course
Mar 04, 2021
"It’s easy to get on the path of mastery. The real challenge lies in staying on it." How true is THAT?!?
How many times have you started a new program and then burnt out and/or switched course? A lot? Me too!!
There are some common pitfalls on the path, says Leonard.
"Obsessive goal orientation. As pointed out numerous times …, the desire of most people today for quick, sure, and highly visible results is perhaps the deadliest enemy of mastery."
Not surprisingly this is a major pitfall for a lot of people. We are told such things as "keep your eyes on the prize". While this can be a helpful reminder to keep going when things get tough on the road towards something meaningful and important, obsessive goal focus can be an obstacle.
Love how Russell Simmons’ puts it in Do You!). He says: "I know some people say ‘Keep your eyes on the prize,’ but I disagree. When your eyes are stuck on the prize, you’re going...
Diligence
Mar 03, 2021
Yesterday, we looked at the various paths that lead us away from mastery in different areas of our lives.
The next logical question is, if the paths of the Dabbler, the Obsessive and the Hacker don’t work, what does?
George Leonard explains that they way to gain mastery is to practice diligently, to practice primarily for the sake of the practice itself.
In other words, focus on the PROCESS, the journey.
As one meditation teacher puts it: "Work diligently. Diligently. Work patiently and persistently. Patiently and persistently. And you’re bound to be successful. Bound to be successful."
Again. And again. And again.
We can get sooo impatient at this, right? We are programmed to want quick results. We don’t like the fact that it is going to take us the rest of our lives.
How do we reconcile this impatience with the reality of mastery?
By focusing and enjoying as best as we can, on the practices. On the process.
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The long and rocky path
Mar 02, 2021
In his book, Mastery: The Keys to Success and Long-Term Fulfillment, George Leonard explains that because the path to mastery in any area is challenging, we are often tempted to look for shorter and easier ways to self-mastery.
He says that are three other paths that may entice us: these are the paths of The Dabbler. The Obsessive. And the Hacker.
- The Dabbler: Gets really into something for a while and loves the quick results but the moment things fade, he/she’s off to the next new thing—rationalizing that it just wasn’t a good fit. This path does not lead to mastery.
- The Obsessive: A bottom-line type of person who wants to get the tennis stroke right on the first lesson and, when results start to slow, pushes even harder to make it work, ignoring the fact that plateaus are part of the path of mastery—pushing and pushing mercilessly to create a continuing upward curve. Then? A sharp, sharp decline. Hence, no mastery.
- The Hacker: After sort...
The process of self-mastery
Mar 01, 2021
How long is this going to take?
This is a question that often comes up when we are talking about working on ourselves.
We ask this question because we think that self-mastery is a project. I have a blueprint or a protocol, I work at it for a certain period of time and then VOILA I have achieved my goal of self-mastery.
Sorry but it doesn’t work that way.
Self-mastery is NOT a project. Not something that you "complete" and move onto the next task or project.
It is a process and a journey.
A journey that begins with an awareness and an intention and ends when our time on this planet does.
In other words, we will NEVER be exonerated from doing the work.
Shifting gear
Feb 26, 2021
Moving away from victim to s/hero mode, turns out is not complicated.
We simply need to change the questions that we ask ourselves.
Victims ask:
- Why me?
- Why is this happening?
- Why is this happening to me?
- Why does this need to happen?
- Why am I like this?
- Why is he/she/they like that? (Good luck trying to figure that one out!!)
(all the time we are asking this question, we are blaming of course. God, ourselves or others).
What do s/heroes ask instead?
They ask: Now what needs to be done? They plant themselves firmly in the zone of action.
The question immediately changes the focus from problem to solution.
Or to put it another way, we can ask: What’s Important Now = W.I.N
Try going for the W.I.N next time you notice yourself complaining.
Ask W.I.N for small things and big problems.
Go for the #WIN and become a s/hero.
Growing roots
Feb 25, 2021
Another thing that complaining does is that it "grows roots" for the problem. It solidifies it somehow. Makes it seem un-changeable. Fixes it in our consciousness as something permanent.
After all, our focus is on the disastrous nature of the problem in all its glory.
So try it: set a timer and complain for 60 seconds.
Describe all the ways the problem is a problem.
- How about the weather? That’s a great thing to complain about, isn’t it
- Because we have lots of opportunity to this.
- The weather in Canada, you know, awful.
- The winters are so long.
- It is sooo cold (it really is!!)
- Winter lasts half the year.
- The days are so short.
- The nights are so long.
- The roads are so icy.
- The traffic is so bad.
- It just snows and snows and snows ALL the time.
Feeling better yet?
No? Then how come we keep doing this?
Complaining about reality.
When we fight with reality, how often we lose?
Only 100% of the time, as Byron Katie puts it.
Victim versus s/hero
Feb 24, 2021
We have been discussing the differences between victims and "owners" or as I like to think of them s/heroes.
What is a quick way to move from victim to s/hero?
Quit complaining.
Quit complaining about things which are outside your control (which is most things!)
The problem with complaining is this: it takes much energy, it is always about others and not yourself (therefore there is nothing you can do about it – so very disempowering) and it may feel good in the moment.
When we complain, our brain may start thinking that we are actually doing something about it. After all, we are discussing it and bringing it into the forefront of our attention right?
Wrong. Nope. Nada.
